45 Day to Reclaiming Your Emotional Health

 Walk of Faith

Day 12: More on the Physical Body.

Your physical body is the vehicle for your spirit body. It is the avatar of your spiritual self. When you begin to close down emotionally this controls your physical heart. Your physical heart controls the amount of oxygen that flows through the body to your vital organs. Oxygen feeds the body, it brings to the cells of the body what they need to support life. Simple.  

The physical human heart is the conduit for the spiritual energy of love. In this universe there are two major ruling energies: one is love, the other is fear, all other emotions flow in between. 

When you are being subjected to an emotionally abusive relationship your physical heart is subject to running a large amount of the fight or flight response. If you do not engage in the proper exercise and diet during this time you are wearing your heart out. There is a wealth of credible information on this subject, including mathematical equations, to support that emotions create chemical reactions in the heart, mind, and body. If this is of interest to you I encourage you to pursue that knowledge.

What is important to know is that your physical body is being affected by the emotional response you experience. It can and does affect the vibrational frequency of your spirit body. Modern science is beginning to support that long periods of emotional dis – ease are a leading cause of different diseases. So ask yourself what is your life expectancy and your quality of life if you choose to allow yourself to be exposed to emotional abuse. 

During my recovery process I used an additional tool called Spiritual Response Therapy which accelerated my healing and strengthening. It is a spiritual tool designed to connect with energy, and shift it with expedience. I can facilitate that energy for you, you can book an appointment by clicking here https://toolsofenergy.appointy.com/. 

To read yesterdays post click here. To Start with Day One Click here. 

It is time for us to rise out of the darkness and into the light. This is my journey. May it bring you peace, and hope on your own journey, and as always make wise and safe choices.

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In Loving Kindness,

Deanna Gloyd

Deanna

 

45 Day to Reclaiming Your Emotional Health

 Walk of Faith

Day 11: Let’s Get Started.

In my journey after I became aware of what was happening to me, and knew that I did not deserve to be treated in such a manor, I began the journey toward shedding the many layers of emotional abuse and exhaustion.

To be clear, it is a challenging journey, but I believe that with the help of others, and by opening up to receiving SPIRIT / God in your every day life you too can embrace a healthier life.

You have several different aspect to your beingness. One of those is your physical body. That is where we will start today. One of the first things I did to get myself moving in a more positive direction was to get my physical body in motion. I knew that if my desire was to have energy in motion – then I needed to move my energy anyway that I could. Up until that moment laying on the couch in abject depression seemed to be the best way to spend the day. Fortunately I had a vibrant loving daughter who needed my attention and would simply not sit still – so that behavior of laying on the couch all day was out.

I know that it may sound daunting at this point – but find a way to get your body moving even if you feel like your are running on empty. In my experience since I had little money, I began to walk a mile each day. I put my daughter into her stroller when she was younger, and walked with the dog each day once she got into school. It is wise to check with your health care provider before you start any exercise routine.

Okay I admit that the sound of getting some exercise may sound like the last thing you want to do right now, but once I got started with a brisk walk each day I felt much better. There is some scientific research to support that exercise helps to clean out the body of toxins and stimulate your energy levels. I think walking each day was one of the things that kept me going forward. For me it created positive changes in how I reacted to the day.

During my recovery process I used an additional tool called Spiritual Response Therapy which accelerated my healing and strengthening. It is a spiritual tool designed to connect with energy, and shift it with expedience. I can facilitate that energy for you, you can book an appointment by clicking here https://toolsofenergy.appointy.com/. 

To read yesterdays post click here. To Start with Day One Click here. 

It is time for us to rise out of the darkness and into the light. This is my journey. May it bring you peace, and hope on your own journey, and as always make wise and safe choices.

To stay connected either click “follow” icon on this page or click here and join our sister site newsletterOr scroll down to the bottom of the page and click like for facebook to receive daily inspiration. 

In Loving Kindness,

Deanna Gloyd

Deanna

 

45 Day to Reclaiming Your Emotional Health

 Walk of Faith

Day 10: Rest.

As you begin to discover where you are in your emotional health, and how you feel about yourself you will need to rest.

Remember that for a long time you have been depleted of your vital energy, your life blood ~ love toward SPIRIT / God, and love toward self. If you explore your vital energy centers you can begin to see where the emotional energy has been both depleted and attacked.

For a review of these energy centers see  http://www.chopra.com/community/online-library/terms/chakras.

Discover which areas require rest, and allow yourself to gather energy before moving forward again. This is a step by step processes and part of the process is rest.

During my recovery process I used an additional tool called Spiritual Response Therapy which accelerated my healing and strengthening. It is a spiritual tool designed to connect with energy, and shift it with expedience. I can facilitate that energy for you, you can book an appointment by clicking here https://toolsofenergy.appointy.com/. 

To read yesterdays post click here. To Start with Day One Click here. 

It is time for us to rise out of the darkness and into the light. This is my journey. May it bring you peace, and hope on your own journey, and as always make wise and safe choices.

To stay connected either click “follow” icon on this page or click here and join our sister site newsletterOr scroll down to the bottom of the page and click like for facebook to receive daily inspiration. 

In Loving Kindness,

Deanna Gloyd

Deanna

 

45 Day to Reclaiming Your Emotional Health

 Walk of Faith

Day 9: Working on Goals.

As we discussed yesterday it depends on what stage you are in order to recognize what goals are for your highest good in reclaiming your emotional health.

Goals are nothing more than simple steps from the place that you are right now toward the place that you desire to be. What I have discovered is that setting goals when one is emotionally drain seems daunting, so your first task is to discover as much as you can about yourself and your situation so you can identify with what is going on for you right now.

Most likely what is going on right now is that you desire more than anything else is to feel whole, comforted, loved, secure, and have clear and precise thinking. Basically you want the pain to stop.

Stop for a moment and take a deep breath. What are your belief systems around relationships? That might be the best place to begin no matter what stage you are in on your path to wholeness.  If order for you to become balanced and whole you have to have some concept of what that looks or feels like. So finding out what balance is, and what it looks and operates like, gives you a place to start.

A book that, interestingly enough fell into my lap today called Chakras for Beginners: A Guide for Balancing your Chakra Energies by David Pond creates a nice connection between our energies bodies and our emotions. May it give you some sense of balance.

As you are working through your current situation, above all remember to be safe. You know your situation best, and you are responsible for the action you either take or do not take. Make wise choices. Let me assure you that from experience SPIRIT / God will always give you what you need as you walk boldly forward in faith. Ask for what you need, and remain watchful for it – it will come.

Remember that everything is energy and energy can be shifted at the spirit level consciousness and assist you in decreasing the amount of time it takes to work through and shed emotional abuse energy. One of the additional tools that I use is called Spiritual Response Therapy. It is a spiritual tool designed to connect with energy, and shift it with expedience. It can help each person identify and release the old energy that has been holding you back or creating a stagnant situation.

If you have been struggling with connecting with SPIRIT / God or are feeling blocked in your ability to leave an emotionally abusive relationship here is the link to my on line appointment book https://toolsofenergy.appointy.com/. I will facilitate Spiritual Response Therapy to assist you in clearing negative energy. 

We will work together to discover your blocks, clear the energy around them, and replace them with new energy and new understanding. 

What do you mean energy? And what does it mean to clear and replace energy? Here is a way to think about it. If your shoulders are stiff from stress and you seek out a massage to release the tension – what happens? Ideally the massage therapist releases the stress, and you gain the lasting benefit. What really happens? The reason we created the stress in the first place is not addressed and we end up recreating it. We again experience the stiff shoulders and seek out the massage therapist. By clearing the energy and educating the conscious mind you can experience an energetic shift and create new experiences. I.E. lessen the stress!

To read yesterdays post click here. To Start with Day One Click here. 

It is time for us to rise out of the darkness and into the light. This is my journey. May it bring you peace, and hope on your own journey, and as always make wise and safe choices.

To stay connected either click “follow” icon on this page or click here and join our sister site newsletterOr scroll down to the bottom of the page and click like for facebook to receive daily inspiration. 

Big Hug,

Deanna Gloyd

Deanna

 

45 Day to Reclaiming Your Emotional Health

 Walk of Faith

Day 8: Setting Goals.

It depends on what stage you are in for recognition of where you are in setting goals for reclaiming your emotional health.

Things to consider:

  • If you are still in the stage of acceptance that you are being emotionally abused consider how often you feel good about yourself, your future, or your current state of being. I found myself year after year crying before every holiday because I did not have enough money to fund the holiday being a full time stay at home Mom and having no access for “family money” because it was kept locked up. I had not yet accepted that my husband would never stop lying to me about finances, that he would never be honest with me about how much money he made, or that he would not go for counseling – because there was nothing wrong, or that he would not do anything more than he saw necessary to do. If you are still grappling with acceptance set a goal to research emotional abuse and see how much your head nods when you read it, or how many tears you have to hold back because you know what you are reading is about you. Be safe and I encourage you to use a public library to do your research, or some where other than your residence or a mutual computer. Remember that abusers like to keep things quiet, and hidden. They are also sneaky and like to check up on you.
  • If you are in the stage of “now what” I encourage you to seek professional help, a counselor, a battered women’s shelter, etc. If you are unsure it has been my experience that the resource librarian has information on places in the community for help. It has also been my experience that battered women’s shelters offer help even when you are not ready to leave. They can give you resources and information to assist you in your process. If you are a battered male – check these resources as well. Ask them about their confidentiality policy. Set a goal to reach out.
  •  If you have already chosen to leave, or have left, set a goal to know what you need. You have for so long taken into account what the abuser wanted, or told you that you wanted – that you have forgotten what you need. Start with the obvious: a place to live, money, items of importance, a job, etc. The abuser will often try to talk you out of all kinds of things, or promise you all kinds of things to keep the play going even if you have left. Take some time to check in with yourself and see what you need. Make a list and use it to evaluate your needs before you agree to anything. Above all seek professional help with this step: a lawyer, a mediator, etc.
  • If you are an adult who lived through emotionally abusive parents set a goal research the signs of emotional abuse and see how much you can relate to with either parent or both. I encourage you to work through the layers of emotional energy and release what you can and change your life to a healthier inner state. Remember you are a Divine aspect of the Creator Source of All capable of healing.   

Above all remember to be safe. You know your situation best, and you are responsible for the action you either take or do not take. Make wise choices. Let me assure you that from experience SPIRIT / God will always give you what you need as you walk boldly forward in faith. Ask for what you need, and remain watchful for it – it will come.

Remember that everything is energy and energy can be shifted at the spirit level consciousness and assist you in decreasing the amount of time it takes to work through and shed emotional abuse energy. One of the additional tools that I use is called Spiritual Response Therapy. It is a spiritual tool designed to connect with energy, and shift it with expedience. It can help each person identify and release the old energy that has been holding you back or creating a stagnant situation.

If you have been struggling with connecting with SPIRIT / God or are feeling blocked in your ability to leave an emotionally abusive relationship here is the link to my on line appointment book https://toolsofenergy.appointy.com/. I will facilitate Spiritual Response Therapy to assist you in clearing negative energy. 

We will work together to discover your blocks, clear the energy around them, and replace them with new energy and new understanding. 

What do you mean energy? And what does it mean to clear and replace energy? Here is a way to think about it. If your shoulders are stiff from stress and you seek out a massage to release the tension – what happens? Ideally the massage therapist releases the stress, and you gain the lasting benefit. What really happens? The reason we created the stress in the first place is not addressed and we end up recreating it. We again experience the stiff shoulders and seek out the massage therapist. By clearing the energy and educating the conscious mind you can experience an energetic shift and create new experiences. I.E. lessen the stress!

To read yesterdays post click here. To Start with Day One Click here. 

It is time for us to rise out of the darkness and into the light. This is my journey. May it bring you peace, and hope on your own journey, and as always make wise and safe choices.

To stay connected either click “follow” icon on this page or click here and join our sister site newsletterOr scroll down to the bottom of the page and click like for facebook to receive daily inspiration. 

Big Hug,

Deanna Gloyd

Deanna

 

45 Day to Reclaiming Your Emotional Health

 Walk of Faith

Day 7: Willingness to Change.

Right off the bat, I will tell you that this is one of the most challenging areas when it comes to emotional abuse. We often tell ourselves that it will get better, or that we do not have what it takes to change our situation. What I discovered is that once you have run through all the scenarios the bottom line is – it comes down to change and how much you are willing to do. 

If you have fears about leaving, or fears about staying – it is understandable. But know that no matter what you choose you will be changing. If you stay the situation will change you. It will suck out your life blood, your life force, and sometimes your will to live. If you leave you face the unknown and what could be worse for you than staying. Some of my clients, as well as myself, have fear about what will happen to us once we leave the “safety” of our homes. But let me assure you that from experience SPIRIT / God will always give you what you need as you walk boldly forward in faith.

That is all for today. Please take some time to consider: are you willing to change?

Remember that everything is energy and energy can be shifted at the spirit level consciousness and assist you in decreasing the amount of time it takes to work through and shed emotional abuse energy. One of the additional tools that I use is called Spiritual Response Therapy. It is a spiritual tool designed to connect with energy, and shift it with expedience. It can help each person identify and release the old energy that has been holding you back or creating a stagnant situation.

If you have been struggling with connecting with SPIRIT / God or are feeling blocked in your ability to leave an emotionally abusive relationship here is the link to my on line appointment book https://toolsofenergy.appointy.com/.

We will work together to discover your blocks, clear the energy around them, and replace them with new energy and new understanding. 

What do you mean energy? And what does it mean to clear and replace energy? Here is a way to think about it. If your shoulders are stiff from stress and you seek out a massage to release the tension – what happens? Ideally the massage therapist releases the stress, and you gain the lasting benefit. What really happens? The reason we created the stress in the first place is not addressed and we end up recreating it. We again experience the stiff shoulders and seek out the massage therapist. By clearing the energy and educating the conscious mind you can experience an energetic shift and create new experiences.

To read yesterdays post click here. To Start with Day One Click here. 

It is time for us to rise out of the darkness and into the light. This is my journey. May it bring you peace, and hope on your own journey, and as always make wise and safe choices.

To stay connected either click “follow” icon on this page or click here and join our sister site newsletterOr scroll down to the bottom of the page and click like for facebook to receive daily inspiration. 

Big Hug,

Deanna Gloyd

Deanna

 

45 Day to Reclaiming Your Emotional Health

 Walk of Faith

Day 6: Faith.

Once your self esteem has been worn down then it becomes harder and harder for you to love yourself. Where once you respected yourself for your intelligent decisions, or for making a decision to enter a relationship in the first place after others has failed miserably, a repeat performance only brings more question and doubt to the table.

When you originally entered this relationship what you were seeking is a person that would finally love and care about you for you: someone you could trust and who truly valued you (Literally you are so hungry for that kind of attention you are easy prey).

For me anytime I asked my significant other what he wanted or to share his opinion on a mutually beneficial decision, what I got was: “it’s whatever you think,” or “I know your will make the best decision for both of us.” I felt very valued and appreciated.

At first I found this kind of sweet and thought he was entrusting me with making decisions for both of us, but what he was really doing was laying a baseline of information for himself he could pull from later, and laying a trap for me to feel safe and secure in my own judgement. Like any predator he was also laying the groundwork for trust.  It is a trust that runs deep into your own psyche. It is hard to explain but if you have ever suffered emotional abuse you understand when I tell you it is like they can see right inside your thoughts without being psychic. They can then undermine any faith you had in yourself to make any decisions. Where once you thought you were an awesome decision maker for the greater good, you are now nothing more than a miserable failure who can not do anything right. Talk about a double take whammie! 

When the transition began it went from “it’s whatever you think,” followed by kudo’s and praise to “that has got to be the stupidest thing,” or worse silence. And it is not just the silence that shuts you out, but the kind that isolates. It is also the kind that carries an anger that is so thick you can cut it with a knife. It fills the entire room. For those of us that are highly sensitive people – it is a devastating blow.  

The idea here is for you to give up the right for you to freely express yourself, move about freely and make decisions. You see being a good decision maker is a threat to the abuser because it means you have power over yourself and your own thoughts.

The idea is that you are to be controlled. You are to be submissive to the point of forgiving his or her bad behavior. That is right. You heard (rather read) me. You are suppose to now rationalize that it is okay for him or her to treat you this way. When you give up your right to express yourself – including saying no – you have given up your rights to be a person a Divine loved aspect of God. THAT IS NOT ACCEPTABLE! And that is why you feel so confused and frightened inside because your gut is telling you that there is something not right here. LISTEN TO YOU! Have faith that some part of you knows that this is wrong and is crying out for freedom from this situation.

Get out before it gets worse. That is where it is headed, and if by reading this it takes you seconds to run out the door, or days, it is better than the years it took me. And trust me you may think you’re strong enough to live through it, but modern science and modern medicine are coming to discover that disease is linked to human emotion. I have worked with an number of clients who has been diagnosed with cancer, irritable bowel syndrome, heart issues, and depression that all were in emotionally abusive relationships. We worked together to clear the energy from their spirit bodies, and they worked with their healthcare providers to take care of the rest. 

Remember that everything is energy and energy can be shifted at the spirit level consciousness and assist you in decreasing the amount of time it takes to work through and shed emotional abuse energy. One of the additional tools that I use is called Spiritual Response Therapy. It is a spiritual tool designed to connect with energy, and shift it with expedience. It can help each person identify and release the old energy that has been holding you back or creating a stagnant situation.

If you have been struggling with connecting with SPIRIT / God or are feeling blocked in your ability to leave an emotionally abusive relationship here is the link to my on line appointment book https://toolsofenergy.appointy.com/.

We will work together to discover your blocks, clear the energy around them, and replace them with new energy and new understanding. 

What do you mean energy? And what does it mean to clear and replace energy? Here is a way to think about it. If your shoulders are stiff from stress and you seek out a massage to release the tension – what happens? Ideally the massage therapist releases the stress, and you gain the lasting benefit. What really happens? The reason we created the stress in the first place is not addressed and we end up recreating it. We again experience the stiff shoulders and seek out the massage therapist. By clearing the energy and educating the conscious mind you can experience an energetic shift and create new experiences.

To read yesterdays post click here. To Start with Day One Click here. 

It is time for us to rise out of the darkness and into the light. This is my journey. May it bring you peace, and hope on your own journey, and as always make wise and safe choices.

To stay connected either click “follow” icon on this page or click here and join our sister site newsletterOr scroll down to the bottom of the page and click like for facebook to receive daily inspiration. 

Big Hug,

Deanna Gloyd

Deanna