What happens when loved ones don’t cross over

One of the most meaningful and powerful aspects of my spiritual calling is to help others move through the loss of loved ones that have passed from the physical body through mediumship, also known as spirit contact.It can be a powerful means of closure for the ones left behind.

In some instances though, it is the ones no longer in the physical body that need the most help. They have chosen not to crossed over because they are concerned for their loved ones, have unfinished business, or died from a sudden trauma and were not ready to leave the physical realm.

By remaining here they cause challenges to those left behind in several ways. One of those ways is that the deceased one will hang out in the energy field of their loved one. This can cause the loved one a high degree of anxiety or a feeling of restlessness.

Here is a recent case that I facilitated. Joan came in to see me for a reading. She said she had suffered from the loss of her father and wanted to know how he was doing and if he was happy because his death had been rather sudden.

I was surprised when her father began speaking to me almost instantly. You see they can sometimes take a while before they speak to give their loved ones the opportunity to interact with me before entering the conversation.

Joan’s father quickly provided me with a myriad of information that I had no way of otherwise knowing. He said he was particularly concerned about his daughter. Joan was surprised and began to cry because she realized that she was in spirit communication with her father.

I asked Joan why he would be concerned about her, she said it was not her but her sister that he was probably concerned about. Joan went on to explain that since her fathers death over a month ago her sister had suffered from terrible depression, had to take an extended leave of absence from her job, and was currently on medication for her anxiety. This had not been the case before her fathers passing. She had been a vibrant woman who never missed a day of work.

As it turned out Joan’s father had not transitioned and was hanging out in the energy field of his daughter. She was picking up all of his energy and attempting to process it. This can be very devastating to the person still in body as Joan’s sister was experiencing.

A few days later Joan and her sister came to see me. We again talked to their father and helped him cross into the light. Within a few days Joan’s sister returned to work, and within a few weeks she was off of her anxiety medication.

If you know anyone who is going through the same circumstance please reach out to them, and let them know there is help available. It may be life changing for them.

If you are ready to connect with a loved one on the other-side, or one who has newly transitioned, please join me at the Medium Gallery in Loveland Monday night from
7 PM to 9 PM. Space is kept to a limited number so that I can get to everyone.
For details on what to expect and ticket information to the events click here.

Big Hug!

Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day!

I thank God everyday for the toughest job I have ever had.

I have cried more, laughed more, searched my heart for the choices that would lead to a better life.

I have created more opportunities than I ever thought I would, and pushed myself to greater heights than I ever thought I could.

The word sacrifice took on a whole new meaning and selfishness took a back seat to the greater good.

Thank you J for being my girl.

For agreeing to call me Mom.

I love you and I love my lifetime career with all its ups and downs.

What is your best memory about your mom? Share below your story. I can’t wait to read them.

Shifting energies can create new realities – What is next?


Shifting energies can create new realities and experiences that will both amaze us and heal us.

To gain understanding ask yourself what issues keep showing themselves to you. What occurrences or life circumstances keep coming up over and over.

Is there someone that comes your mind over and over? Is it someone that you have not forgiven? Or someone you have unresolved issues with?

Are you feeling that your current job is somehow not what you thought you would be doing? Is it the position that you hold in your current work place that no longer interest you, or pays you enough?

Are you unhappy or frustrated in your current relationship? Are you feeling like you want to move forward with your relationship, and yet somehow you know it would be better to let go and walk away? Or maybe your partner is not showing you the signs that they want to deepen the relationship?

In any of these circumstances the Universe is asking you why do you hang on? What is keeping you in an endless cycle of disappointment? Why do you feel there is nothing more for you than were you currently are?

The truth is – is that there is always enough. Enough room for you to expand your consciousness and your experiences in this Universe. There is enough positive energy and joy in the universe that is available to everyone ~ right now!

All you have to do is ask for what you desire, and let go of what you have that is currently taking up your time and energy and showing no prospect of fulfilling your dreams.

New realities await.

The shift is up to you.

Many Blessings!


P.S. If you need some help and are ready to let go and move forward in your life, you can sign up here for a session or come to Denver on Thursday at For Heaven’s Sake Books in Denver for an in person appointment.